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Selectively Slutty has moved to Patreon!

Published 9 months ago • 1 min read

Hey guys!

Amidst a lot of life changes (once more!), I'm returning back to dedicating a lot of time to content creation. In the pursuit of that, Selectively Slutty is moving to Patreon! And you can still subscribe for free.​

(Or, you know, you can become a Patron for as low as $5/mo. There, you'll have access to my close friends list, weekly video/writing and Patron Q&As!)

I'll be sharing free content monthly, with some occasional bonus material (videos, writing and maybe even a worksheet!). Here's how to follow for free:

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The Power of Non-Monogamous Community

The best thing I’ve done in life was make friends. Because of them, I’ve been able to live a life with so many colors. I’ve been able to love out loud, cry my heart out, and find support in the darkest of moments. My closest friendships have been born out of solidarity and the mutual desire for sustainable, connected community. We walk toward the path of solidifying our position as chosen family. As someone who was emotionally neglected as a child, and still is rather estranged from most of her family, my friends are what keeps me alive.
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To write these words and truly mean them is such a blessing. The community I’m cultivating has been years in the making. However, I can acknowledge that community and care is an immense privilege, especially in a world that seeks to isolate us into the most efficient units that bring the most profit to large corporations. Oh, to live under late stage capitalism.
While many chalk up non-monogamy simply to dating, sex and relationships, community is the key to the sustainability of this relationship orientation.
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When you’re in a minority that directly challenges the status quo, you face social pushback and isolation. We make up for that by a network past our chosen family, metamours and loved ones. Non-monogamous community helps us feel less alone, process compulsory monogamy and sustain long term connection.

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Gabrielle Smith

Non-monogamy educator & sex/relationship writer

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